It’s the end of another year and with it the obligatory (at least for me) time for reflection. There have been other moments of reflecting throughout the year, but “end of year reflecting” tends to feel a bit more momentous.
I’m not much for resolutions. Perhaps it’s a semantics issue for me, but resolutions seem daunting and, often, fleeting. In my opinion, if you have the choice, it doesn’t behoove anyone to start anything with that kind of pressure attached. All that being said, I do think it helps to share what we’ve learned-at whatever point in life we’re at- with others. So, here it goes…
I made a lot of discoveries this year. I’ve kept up some healthy, consistent habits as well as slid back a few steps on others. What’s most important about recognizing these achievements and failures is the realization that this back and forth Cha-cha is something that I should just get used to. As long as I’m attempting positive action I will continue to see positive change, as well as my share of failures-cause that’s just how life works. This may be one of the most important truths that 2013 has taught me. No matter how hard I try, I will not be perfect, I will not get everything I want and not everyone will like me. Depending on the day this can be a rather depressing thought. To work so hard for something and have no surefire proof that it’s working (let alone blatant proof that it’s not) can cause even the most optimistic person to take pause. But looked at another way it can also be the most magical part about living. Anything can happen. And on the days when positive thought seems as possible as a leprechaun and a yeti recording an album of Celine Dion’s greatest hits, I break out the self-help books and call on my support system to be reminded that it aint the destination, it’s the journey that counts. So, if possible, create the journey that despite the possibility of a different outcome than you originally intended it’s still worth it.
Speaking of support systems, I’m truly proud and grateful for mine. Supporting and nurturing those relationships is another achievement I’m most proud of this year. Yet, as mentioned earlier, I’ve also had to come to terms with the fact that not everyone is going to be into me. This doesn’t give me free range to act like an asshole. I still intend to exercise caution before jumping to conclusions, try to treat each new encounter as an opportunity (which in NYC can be interesting) and learn as much as I can from the each new person that comes into my life. It’s my job to have empathy for every character I play in order to bring out the truth of the work, and I believe that if we all did this in our lives the world would certainly be better off. Yet, even consistent empathy and compassion will not make everyone like me. And what is becoming increasingly clear is that the goal of making everyone like me is terribly stifling to creativity. If I’m busy constantly focusing on how I’m being perceived and asking for permission, a huge percentage of discovering something awesome is taken away. And, what I will continually try to remind myself of is the fact that nothing new be created while trying to fit into a mold of what people already know.
So, for 2014 I plan to continue my journey. I hope to keep the up the practices that have helped my growth this year and find new ones in the process. I want to try everyday to be brave and honest when it comes to expressing myself creatively and I want to be grateful everyday for being allowed to do it. Although I have no idea where I’m going to end up, I’m prepared to be surprised. Luckily for me, I’ve always loved a good surprise.
Happy New Year!